Be consistent in your thoughts, steadfast in your words.
Be swift to hear but slow to answer.
Honor and dishonor through talking!
Be not called a detractor, use not your tongue for calumny.
For shame has been created by the thief, and the reproach of his neighbor for the double-tongued.
A man's tongue can be his downfall.
Say nothing harmful, small or great; be not a foe instead of a friend.
A bad name and disgrace you will acquire.

And each one should confidently make known his need to the other, so that he might find what he needs and minister it to him. And each one should love and care for his brother in all those things in which God will give him grace, as a mother loves and cares for her son.

. . . as a sign that they remember my blessing and my testament, let them always love one another . . .

As Friars age, it is natural for them to spend time recalling and telling other Friars about past accomplishments, travels, humorous events, prayerful liturgies--those at which they presided as well as attended--and other marvelous experiences. These are significant memories worth sharing.

On the one hand, by speaking of their past they are welcoming their listeners into their fond memories just in their telling. They are taking the time to convey their personal history with religious men who share their goals and values. They also indirectly affirm the importance of their brothers by sharing the treasure of their regard in revealing their personal history.

On the other hand, if all a Friar can do is talk about his glorious past with praise of course for his finer moments, then he is bragging. It becomes dreadfully tiresome to listen to a Friar rattle on continuously about his life, his talents and his "unique" experiences. Even worse, he may hurt the feelings of brothers who did not have similar opportunities in their lives or ministries, causing resentments and ill will. Respectful brothering implies we know how much of our past to reveal and when!